Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Blog Tour: Guest Post + Giveaway with Jennifer Lynne

WELCOME TO THE BLOG TOUR:

Meet Jennifer:
Jennifer Lynne is a multi-published author who writes sensual and erotic romance from her home in Melbourne, Australia. She has two novellas published with Red Sage, including Seducing Serena in Secrets Volume 28 Sensual Cravings, and Pandora's Gift. Her first sensual romance with Breathless Press, Educating Ethan, will be out in February. Jen lives in hope that readers will continue to enjoy her novella-length tales of love and lust!

Connect with Jennifer: Goodreads | Twitter | Facebook | Blog

"5 Reasons To Date A Younger Man" by Jennifer Lynne

Thank you to Romancing Rakes for having me here on today's blog tour stop.

Ida, my heroine in Educating Ethan, has a number of valid reasons that make her reluctant to commit to a relationship with her younger neighbor, Ethan. But maybe if she'd undertaken some of the same research I did when looking at the advantages of an older woman dating a younger man – plenty more pros than cons, it seems – she'd have been much quicker off the mark. Though I do admit that my "research" involved a bottle of wine and a few women friends!

So, based on my research (thanks, ladies!), what would be my top five reasons for an older woman to date a younger man? I must say, as a 40+ woman myself, making this list was kinda fun! In no particular order, these are the reasons I'd pick to date a younger man (if I weren't already happily in love with my older guy, that is!):
  1. Sexual equality. Men reach their sexual peak much earlier than women, so dating a younger guy gives an older woman more of a chance for a similar libido level in their partner.
  2. Physical strength and higher energy levels in a younger guy – for life in general and hopefully the bedroom in particular (and without the expanded waistline that older men often have).
  3. Older women are quite often already established in a career, or at least have a good idea of what they want and don't want from life and from their partner. When they choose to date a younger man I would guess there is more of an equal footing between partners rather than the more traditional idea of a "father figure" who might be able to look after them. I also think younger men may be more inclined to accept the situation if their older partner has a more successful career than they do.
  4. There is less likely to be emotional baggage with a younger guy – in the form of ex-wives or children. There is more chance that the relationship will be about the couple rather than their families.
  5. Younger men are quite often willing to learn, and I think it would be quite gratifying to a woman's sense of self-worth if she had a partner who looked to her for guidance based on her more extensive life experience. Especially so if that carries over into the bedroom.
As I mentioned, I'm happily in a relationship with a man quite significantly older than me, so in a way I've done the opposite of what's on this list. But at the end of the day, I've chosen a partner based on the individual, without regard for how old – or young – he may be.

That is, in fact, one of the key messages I hope comes through in Educating Ethan – that Ida and Ethan's age difference pretty much becomes irrelevant, and in the end it is just two people falling in love and trying to overcome the emotional obstacles that we all bring to a new relationship. Regardless of our age.

It was hard to maintain eye contact as she spoke, with his magnificent chest bare to the world, the pinkish brown nipples puckered slightly in the air-conditioned room, and the faint sprinkling of dark hair that led downwards in an enticing line like a persistent arrow directing her wayward gaze.

And her wayward gaze complied, whether she wanted it to or not, noting the curve of those thighs and the implicit strength in the coiled muscles as he moved forward to reach for another roll. She glanced only briefly this time but still he knew. She could tell in the amused curl of his lips as they lifted and the knowing way he slanted his eyes at her. God, what was wrong with her today?

He's too young, she reminded herself. And he sure as hell won't be thinking of me that way.

He probably misses his mother's cooking.

She took a deep, steadying breath. "Careful, Ethan. They're really hot."

There. A mother would say something like that. Wouldn't she?

"But delicious." His eyes crinkled at the corners as he chewed and swallowed. He looked adorably young. She moved around to the other side of the island and gripped its edges. Now she couldn't see anything below his hips. Much safer.

"What's it called?" He spoke around the food, and for a moment, she wasn't quite sure to what he was referring.

It's called lust, she thought. Or maybe cradle snatching? "Umm…"

"Your catering company. What's it called?"

"Oh!" Tension released from her shoulders as they ventured into a familiar topic of conversation. Work she could deal with. "Simply Delicious."

"How very…appropriate." The look he was sending her had her breath catching in her throat and had nothing to do with food.
EDUCATING ETHAN:
Ida Deloraine intends to build herself a new life and a new career in catering, after a painful divorce. When the much younger Ethan Holt moves in across the street, an innocent flirtation quickly becomes serious when the two realise their age difference is no barrier to all-consuming passion.

But Ethan is the exact opposite of what Ida is looking for in a sexual partner. He is young and vibrant, with his life and his dreams still ahead of him, whereas hers are all in the past. Can Ethan, who is fighting his own demons in the form of a car accident, failed marriage and forced career change, convince Ida to overcome the past and live for the moment?
And just who is educating who in this cougar encounter?

Where To Buy: Breathless Press | Kindle | All Romance

Jennifer's question: Are you in a relationship with someone significantly younger – or older – than you? What do you think are some of the advantages or disadvantages of a so-called "cougar" relationship? All comments on my post here at Romancing Rakes For The Love of Romance will go in the draw to win a $20 Amazon or Barnes & Noble Gift Card. Winner will be announced at the end of my blog tour on Mar 30th.

If you'd like to follow my tour, next stop will be Forever Book Lover on Mar 15th, where I'll be discussing the issue of blending two families under the one roof.

Well, you heard the lady so leave a comment and follow the blog tour here. The more you comment, the better chance you have at winning that gift card so follow the tour.

A huge thank you to Jennifer for hanging out at the blog and for the ladies at Goddess Fish Promotions for forwarding correspondence between Jennifer and us.



23 comments:

  1. Thanks Kati and Jamie for having me here today! Looking forward to the discussion on this topic :)

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  2. I know many women dating younger men--one of my friends married a guy 15 years younger! You're story sounds intriguing and will pique the interest of many women I'm sure!

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  3. Thanks Stephanie! I think it is more "acceptable" these days for an older woman to date a younger man - and so it should be - it has worked the other way since forever! But I think what I like best about the idea is the increased freedom of choice.

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  4. Just letting you know that it is now after 11pm here in Melbourne and I'm heading off to bed soon. But I'll be back first thing to check in and respond to any comments or queries you might have :)

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  5. I get asked out by younger guys all the time and older guys. I seem to have a space of about ten years around me 'cause guys close to my age don't ask me out. I love younger guys but, the bad thing is they are less established and not all are interested in commitment. :( We do have a few colleges in my area and I think that's part of the problem. LOL

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  6. I married someone a decade younger. From my perspective, a negative would be waiting for them to decide on their future plans, or mature to the older person's satisfaction, while your biological clock ticks away

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  7. I married a man 8 years younger than I. Our only problem was music. He hadn't heard my kind of music, and I really didn't care for his. Other than that, however, it was great.

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  8. I never really thought about the whole "cougar" thing until I hit the big 5-0 recently. Now, I think it sounds pretty good. Thinking about older women, statistically it makes a lot of sense to marry a younger man. Women generally live longer. Couple this with the fact they we have often married older men and we end up having a large number of widowed older women in our society. Rather than marrying someone 7 years OLDER than me (and I adore him to pieces...don't get me wrong), maybe I should have married someone 7 years YOUNGER. This would help even out the whole lifespan thing!

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  9. I suppose there are pros and cons to arguing for any relationship no matter what the respective partners' ages are. I dated older guys at first because I was a very serious goal oriented person, but I eventually married a man only two years older. Most of the women in my family have dated and married men at least 10 years older so that was the pattern I was used to, but I do not have an issue with it being the reverse particularly now that I am older.

    Interesting discussion! The story sounds pretty good to me. Love exploring different kinds of romance.

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  10. I know some people who are dating younger men but i've only dated older. I guess i just find the idea odd but it prolly wouldn't bother me much if i dated a younger guy the only prob would be if he was too immature for his age, but that can be a good thing too.

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  11. It isn't letting me hit 'reply' for some reason, so I'll reply here :)

    Hi Menina
    The commitment issue would be a negative, especially if the guy is college-age. I guess their future is still in flux at that point. Could be frustrating for a relationship!

    Hi Heather
    Sounds like a similar negative to the one Menina mentioned - and depending on the woman's age and plans for the future the biological clock could be a definite factor. Thanks for commenting!

    Hi Mom Jane
    Music! Yes, it changes every decade, or even more frequently these days. I have that issue with my partner who is almost 11 years older than me (the opposite of this post, but still...) He's a 70's boy and I'm an 80's girl. But we manage somehow!

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  12. Hi Catherine
    I'm heading towards that figure myself! And my partner is older by almost 11 years so I know exactly what you mean. But while it does make sense in terms of life spans etc, I guess we have to go with 'the one' we have the chemistry with, and for me that means my older man. Can't hurt to dream a bit, though... :)

    Hi Sophia Rose
    Yes, I think my aim with this story was to show that it doesn't matter about age in the end - as long as the couple are both consenting adults, it becomes more about the relationship and the age almost becomes irrelevant. Thanks for your comment!

    Hi Amy
    I've known some pretty immature men over the years, and not all have been younger guys! But it often does come down to what our own life experience/exposure has been, doesn't it? As with anything, I guess that experience informs our choices to a certain extent. Thanks for commenting!

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  13. An advantage of dating an older person is that they'll have more life experience.

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  14. Definitely, bn100! I think that would appeal to a lot of people - to the younger person who can draw on and benefit from the older person's life experience, and the older person because I believe it would put them in a position of power (whether consciously or not) and I think there's real sex appeal in that idea :)

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  15. My husband was a little younger, but not that much. I think the man in the relationship gets a WOMAN & the woman would feel liberated.

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  16. Hi Marybelle, I think you're exactly right. He's not getting an immature person, but a real Woman with a capital 'W' :) And the knowledge that a woman is still desirable to a man, even though she is older than he, would be a heady aphrodisiac. At least, it would be for me!

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  17. I believe it does benefit her to be with a younger man. The reasons are quite clearly outlined, 1-5. :-) But there are benefits for him as well. A mature, reasonable & wise partner at her sexual prime. What more could he want for!

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  18. Hi Krazymama, thanks for stopping by! I absolutely agree with you. He's getting everything in the one package - mature and wise and an equal match sexually. Win/win for all :)

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  19. My husband is 5 years younger and I am still telling him he is getting to old for me.

    This looks like a great book.

    Great interview, thanks for hosting. Adding this to my Need to Read list.

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  20. Hi Maria, Lol about your husband! My partner tells me it is all about how young you are at heart, not on the outside! Thanks for your comment :)

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  21. Just popping in to say HI and sorry I missed visiting with you on party day!

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  22. Hi Karen, lovely to see you here - and never too late to join the party!

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